Painting : Healing of man with paralysis by James Tissot
It must have been a shock for Jesus to see a paralyzed man dropping through the roof, dangling by ropes helped by four friends, looking directly into His face.
I have this false sense that I must stand strong but I have learnt that this is actually more life-destroying than life-giving.
If I reflect on the darkness of suffering, the mystery and isolation that suffering brings and for which there is no answer, the only adequate response is to sit in silence and listen .
When I heard about the tragic suicide of a young Harvard graduate, Bill Zeller and then read his heartbreaking suicide letter it was harrowing to learn that this man felt unable to tell anyone about the sexual abuse that had happened to him from an early age. He had grown up emotionally paralysed.
"In this movie I play a victim of abuse and violence, and if you are out there and are a person that has had that tragedy befall you, there is no shame and no weakness in seeking help and counselling. It is sometimes the strongest thing that you can do to stop the cycle of violence. "
I have had some association with victims of childhood abuse and it is hard to explain all the different ways it can cripple a person but the fallout can happen at a distance of many years from the actual events.
Some cope with it better than others; many turn to drugs, become abusers themselves or form dysfunctional relationships. It is disheartening to think that this young man couldn't find the help he needed. We should be kind to others because we don't know what battles they are fighting.